Thursday, January 17, 2013

100 Things I Want To Teach My Daughter

Last March my life was changed forever. A pregnancy test turned up positive. Surprised, shocked, overwhelmed, and instantly in love with this unborn child. Today I get to hold my baby girl and kiss her chubby checks and love her more and more with each day. She has changed my world forever. Being a mom to a little girl is so amazing and challenging. So much I want to teach her. Even more I want her to remember as she grows up. This world can be a rough place to try and raise a woman of God. My list of a hundred things I hope she will grow to know and believe. 
Charlotte Grace at 2 days old. 
1) You are beautiful. Without the use of an airbrushes, diets, makeup, or size 2 hips. You are you, and you are stunning.
2) You are loved. By me and your daddy. Your grandparents, aunts and uncles. But more then all of us combined, by God. And nothing you do will change that.
3) I will always be your mom and you will always be my baby.
4) You are always welcomed home. It doesn't matter what you do, this is always a safe home for you to return. My arms are wide open, as is the front door.
4) You are unique. The world will tell you to conform to certain styles, thoughts, and lifestyles. But they really need your point of view.
5) Cookie dough, brownie batter, and cake batter will fix almost any broken heart or finals week stress.
6) I am your best friend and mother. First i am your mother.
7) I will always fight for you, but I will teach you to fight your own battles.
8) Try to live a peace with everyone, but do not be afraid to fight when it's needed. You are not a doormat.
9) The world needs strong, powerful women. Be one.
10) Your daddy will love you more and longer than any man ever will.
11) The day you were born my heart started beating in you. I will feel all your hurts and tears. And I will share in all your happiness and joy.
12) Make your future husband work for you. Make him prove he is willing to fight long and hard for you.
13) Marriage is a lot of work. More than you will ever imagine.
14) Marry your best friend. It will mean more to you then flowers and fancy dates and a sexy body.

15) Those three things are nice to have too though.
16) Education is important. Cherish every chance you get to learn something new.
17) Dance. All the time. Whenever you can. Especially when you don't feel there is a reason too.
18) Girlfriends are the best therapy. And they are free. Find at least one you can trust completely.
18) Regardless of what your father says, alcohol is not from the devil. Just be responsible with it.
19) Your body is yours. Save it to give to your husband. It will be worth it.
20) Christmas is the best time of year.
21) And cookies baked at Christmas time have no calories.
22) Play at least one sport in your life.
23) And try at least one instrument. Your Grandmom Titus would love to teach you the piano.
24) You have my genes. See a doctor and dentist regularly.
25) You will grow up in the kitchen with me. I hope you love it as much as I do. It is a way to express love to many people.
26) A good bra and pretty underwear are worth the investment.
27) You are never too old to love Disney.

28) Your broken heart will heal in time. I promise.
29) Do your research before you form an opinion.
30) Food is something to enjoy, not become slave to.
31) We are going to fight. I will make you mad. Remember I'm always doing what I feel is best for you.
32) But I will screw up and make mistakes. And I will apologize.
33) There is so much music out there. Listen to a little of everything.
34) But when all else fails, Tenth Avenue North is always good.
35) Talk to me about anything. I want to listen to your stories.
36) Never be afraid you are bothering me. I love to be your mom. Even at 3am.
37) Flirting is an art form. Learn it. And never lose it. Flirt like crazy with your husband.
38) Your wedding night will be awkward. Laugh it off. Cry it off. Do whatever it take to get over. It will get great. Promise.
39) Never let yourself go. Stay sexy.
40) Dying your hair is always acceptable when you need a change.
41) Tattoos are wonderful but they are permanent. Think them through.
42) Work hard. Always. Even when no one is watching.
43) Find something your passionate about.
44) Travel every chance you get. The world is a wonderful place.
Prague, Czech Republic. I hope I can take you one day.

45) Live your life for yourself. Not through your phone.
46) I am immensely proud to call you my daughter.
47) Your first kiss should be special and celebrated. We will share champagne over it.
48) There will never be enough money to get married or have a kid. Don't wait for there to be, but plan ahead.
49) Chick flicks are great to watch but those men aren't real. Stop waiting for one to show up in your life.
50) Saying sorry first doesn't make you weak. It proves you value relationships more then being right.
51) It's okay to cry when you need to.
52) PMS does not excuse anything.
53) Pedicures are a great way to start off flip flop season.
54) The house you have, car you drive, toys and clothes you buy, ability to breast feed, or run the PTA and still have homemade meals does not determine if you are a good mom. Your ability to love and nurture does.
55) Take big risk. If you fail, its proof you are going somewhere.
56) Make your faith your own. Don't rely on mine or your father's to get you by.
57) The best way to spread Christmas cheer is to sing loud for all to hear. Even if you are horribly off key.
58) No number will ever define you. Not your GPA, bank balance, age or most importantly a number on a scale.
59) If Jane Austen wrote it, you should read it.
60) Same with John piper.
61) Make plans for your life. Then realize God has a sense of humor and will probably change them for you.
62) Money doesn't grow on trees. You will have to work hard for it. Save as much as you can but every once in awhile splurge. You deserve it.
63) Having a kid will change everything you think you know about marriage and life in general. Be prepared.

64) As much as I want you to be happy, it is not my number one concern. Your growth as a Godly woman is.
65) Never lose the ability to laugh at yourself. It will help save your sanity.
66) Find a church that challenges you to grow, not that makes you feel good.
67) Your opinion is important and the world needs to hear it.
68) You can change the world. The only thing on your way will be you.
69) My mom is my best friend. I hope to be yours too.
70) You can never out grow naps.
71) Love is a commitment and promise. Be careful how you use it.
72) It's okay to feel hurt, angry, sad and scared. It is not okay to let those control your life.
73) Sometimes a little shoe shopping does a woman a whole lot of good.
74) You are an American and with that comes a lot of privileges the rest of the world will never have. Always be grateful for them.
75) If our fashion styles ever agree; you are welcome to anything I have.
76) Forgiveness is hard. Do it anyway.
77) Time spent together is more valuable than money. Remember that when you have a husband and kids.
78) Never be afraid to get a little dirty.
79) I will always worry about you. No matter how old you get.
80) You can cheer for any football team you want. Except the Eagles.
81) The Phillies are the best baseball team. Your daddy is wrong when he says its the Red Sox.
82) Prayer is effective. Even when you can't see that. Especially then.
83) Your relationship with your daddy is one of the most important relationships in your life. And trust me, he loves you more than he can express.


84) I never want you to feel trapped. There is always a way out. It just might not be the easiest or prettiest way.
85) Celebrate every birthday! Your life is worth a huge celebration.
86) Be careful how you judge people. You will never know their whole story.
87) Other people's happiness is not your responsibility. Don't try and make it.
88) Your daddy and I are tying our best. You are a gift given to us by God, one we didn't deserve. We know we aren't good enough to be your parents but we are trying our hardest. And praying a lot
89) I wouldn't trade the scars on me caused by pregnancy for anything. They are reminders of the most amazing 9 months of my life.
90) People are going to think what they want about you. Don't let it get to you.
91) Beauty is found in who you are, not what you look like.
92) You are never to old to cuddle with me.
93) Marriages aren't built on romantic dates and uncontrollable passion. They are built in folding the laundry, lazy mornings in bed together and washing dishes.
94) It's okay to avoid reality for a day and escape. But no more. Face life head on.

95) Being a woman is a blessing.
96) Never apologize for bring sensitive or emotional. It's a sign you have a big heart and aren't afraid to show it. Showing emotions is a sign of strength.
97) Your instincts should be trusted. You are aware of a lot more then you realize.
98) You are capable of so much more than you believe you are. It's my job to push you towards it.
99) I love being your mom. Always. From the day I found out I was pregnant till the day I die, being your mom will be my greatest source of joy.
100) You will never know the depth of my love for you. And there is nothing you can do to make me love you any more or any less.